“Trust is the active engagement with the unknown. Trust is risky. It’s vulnerable. It’s a leap of faith.”
Esther Perel
CALIFORNIA TELEHEALTH
Sex & relationship therapy for people living outside the norm
I'm Kelly Howard, a sex-positive, trauma-informed psychotherapist offering online therapy to individuals and relationships of all configurations throughout California. Whether you're navigating intimacy, identity, or a relationship in transition — this is a space built for the full complexity of who you are.
My practice is affirming and celebratory of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. Non-binary, queer, kinky, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and questioning clients are not just welcome here — this work was designed with you in mind.
WHO I WORK WITH
You might be looking for a therapist who just gets it
If you’re seeking unconditional acceptance, compassion, and lived understanding on the complexities of the human experience within sexuality, therapy with me might be a great next step!
A few of the situations that bring people to my practice:
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Dyads, triads, and multi-partner relationships navigating desire, communication, transitions, or conflict.
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Gender, sexuality, relationship structure — questions that deserve space and no pressure toward an answer.
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Relationships where sex has faded and both people want to find their way back to each other.
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Non-monogamy is a skill set. I work with people at every stage — newly opening, established, and restructuring.
AREAS OF FOCUS
Some of what we can work on together
My practice covers a wide range of sex and relationship specialties. Some common areas include:
Desire discrepancy & reigniting intimacy
Sexual orientation exploration
Non-nuclear household navigation
Gottman method & communication
Kink & BDSM dynamics
Relationship structure & philosophy exploration
Discernment counseling
Conscious uncoupling
Many of us grow up believing that sex exists on a linear progression from broken → normal → perfect. It doesn’t. Instead, sex exists within a cycle of woundedness to healing, and none of us is ever ‘finished,’ we are all always moving through the cycle.
— Emily Nagoski, PhD, from Come Together
Not sure if we're a good fit?
Navigating the internet to find a therapist who really gets you is genuinely hard. I offer a free, no-obligation consultation so you can get a feel for how I work — and if it seems like we're not the right match, I'll point you toward someone who might be.
